What the F*** Do I Do Next?

I’ve said this sentence to myself countless times over the years and I hear it from many of my clients, as well. You’ve started the work, you’ve gone to therapy. That is a HUGE step and vital to start your healing process, but then…you might get to a point where you feel you need more. 

Therapy takes you far, but it only takes you so far. It deals with the past much more than the future. The shitty “should” feeling might go away. I should be this. I should do that. I should go there, etc. That younger version of self that has been exiled, that injury you’ve carried that’s been overwhelming to your system - therapy has helped you heal those wounds.

It often gets you to a place where you feel resolved but a should you SHOULD listen to, is I should not stop here. I have more to learn, more to dig into, more to feel, more to give, more to be. 

As someone who is not only a therapist themselves, but also has gone to therapy and sat on the other side of the couch as a patient, I truly get it. My experience was painfully energy intensive. Depleting at times. I finally got to a point where I understood my past and was able to see why certain experiences had continuously affected my present. But then I didn’t know what to do with that knowledge. 

The information was so important, the work was so eye-opening and I didn’t want to stop. I wanted to continue on a path of self-development, so I found a coach. 

That decision enabled me to get into a lane where I was my own boss. I started focusing on the future, my dreams, my plans. And I was doing it with a new confidence. 

Coaching picked up where my healing left off and it helped me get my life into a place of flow. Living should feel effortless. As I typed that, it auto corrected to loving and wow! That is so true, also. Loving, living, learning, all the things should feel effortless. 

After working with a coach, I knew I wanted to become one, so I got certified. I now serve as a guide to clients who don’t feel they have what it takes to thrive and that is one hell of a feeling. 

If you want to start your journey, either through therapy or life coaching, please reach out and let’s have a conversation.